What wedding and engagement trends are easily on the way out? Today’s brides and grooms to be are getting married on their own terms and forgoing popular traditions. In other words, if you have not been to a wedding in a while you may be in for a few surprises. What long-held traditions are you least likely to see?

Unique Engagement Rings Replace The Classic, White Diamonds

Although you are still likely to see expensive engagement rings and some elements of classic engagement rings, such as white gold wedding bands, more Americans are choosing to pop the question with unique, custom engagement rings. From tinted diamonds, including canary yellow diamonds, pink diamonds, and sky blue diamonds to purchasing rings without diamonds altogether, today’s couples are getting creative. People are much more likely to purchase rings with gemstones, such as sapphires or rubies, or even have rings custom-made. Men are also receiving more rings, from prospective brides — or from prospective grooms, if they are in a same-sex relationships.

Bridesmaids Can Walk Themselves Down The Aisle

More couples are choosing to have bridesmaids and groomsmen walk up the aisle separately — or, in some cases, groomsmen are already arranged at the alter when bridesmaids walk down the aisle. Some suggests this helps the men master specific line-ups. Others suggest it is a nod toward gender equality and/or fighting against gender and cultural norms.

Let’s Face It: Escort Cards Are A Waste Of Money

More couples are saving money on stationary by opting out of escort cards. For those not in the know, table cards and escort cards are different. Table cards designate the table where guests will sit; escort cards, on the other hand, designate the exact seat or seat number. Couples are specifying tables, but allowing guests to choose who, at their table, they will sit next to.

How are engagements and weddings changing? Although you’re still likely to see expensive engagement rings, you’re also likely to see more unique options. Newlyweds are also less likely to pair up bridesmaids and groomsmen, or spend money on needless stationery. Find more on this here.